The Best Groups Of People Don’t Let Guilt In
They own their mistakes and support each instead.
When we feel low and insecure, a natural response is to blame those around us for our shortcomings. The last thing an insecure person needs is more self-loathing, so seeking the blame in our immediate vicinity is a reflexive act of self-preservation. We might be failing in a particularly difficult task or missing a goal we set for ourselves. Frequently, we will blame those who gave us the job for demanding too much and not giving us the necessary tools. Alternatively, we might point fingers at those under our command for not being talented or hard-working enough.
The best groups of people are robust because they are immune to such reactions. Regardless of the position of any given member, we will find that guilt is not something they are interested in. We might meet a ground worker, a middle manager or the organisation’s leader, and they will all have this one quality in common: they own their mistakes and don’t blame others. Somehow, they defuse the potential bomb of insecure lashing by creating such a supportive, honest and caring environment that the would-be hater cannot bring themselves to attack, urged instead to introspect and seek help.
Such communities are rare in a world obsessed with individual gain and ambition. However…