Thank you for this! It’s a very interesting perspective, and I don’t think we’re as far from each other as we might think. Maybe I’m wrong, but we want the same thing anyway.

Calling people out won’t eradicate their attitudes, and I agree that it will only make some of them more defensive and entrenched if not even more sneaky. However, I can remember what was alright for men to do twenty years ago, and I don’t see it happen nearly as much anymore.

It could be my belief in the necessity of kicking people out to achieve anything resembling harmony that we won’t agree on, but that’s a more general matter.

I’m a bit of a hermit, too, so it could be that I simply don’t hang out with many other men except for a very select few. :)

In any case, my call to do better was a genuine call to arms, from the bottom of my heart, not because it might achieve something, but because I felt others might feel the same way and hopefully now feel ever so slightly less alone.

Thanks again for a thought-provoking response!