Speaking About Problems Is Both Generous And Self-Preserving

Bad days are better shared

a group of friends with exposed hearts talk about their problems in the middle of the ocean, digital collage — by DALL·E

Good Will Collision

We all can have bad days, personally or professionally. Sometimes, both worlds collide and blast us out of our stability. It is the sort of day when we wish we had stayed in bed. When this happens, I prefer to stay inside and not meet anybody. I feel it is a fair approach: I will deal with it myself; nobody deserves my foul mood. Naturally, we may have made plans in advance: bad days tend to come unannounced. So there we are, using our last bit of energy to arrange those facial muscles together in a semblance of a smile while greeting a friend. In these unavoidable circumstances, I find myself caught in the middle of not wanting to infect my mates with my mood while aiming at always being 100% honest with them.

How Are You?

Since I am terrible at faking anything, I tend to open up and pour it all out. In a recent scenario of this kind, it was my friend who started talking about what a horrible day she had had before I had a chance to say anything. We marvelled and laughed at the synchronicity and had finished moaning before the second sip of wine. Any harrowing experience, when shared and mirrored in someone else’s, becomes automatically more bearable. It may seem obvious, but opening up isn’t that…