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Can We Expect People To Care For Our Dreams?
No, but it may be easier than we think to make them part of them
If we have a dream, the sooner we realise it won’t be as important to anyone else as it is to us, the sooner we will be able to get down to making it come true. The alternative is to spend a lifetime exasperated because nobody seems to care as much as we do. Of course they don’t, it isn’t their dream, now, is it?
I made this mistake with my first band. It was my dream to make a living with music, to have a band, to make records and play shows. It was my songs we played. I could have been fortunate enough to find people whose dream was to join someone else’s band, but I was only lucky to find people who wanted to play with me because they wanted to play music and because they liked my songwriting. That is damned lucky, if you ask me now, but back then, I grew resentful as people missed rehearsals and didn’t seem to be bothered about never getting to a point where we could think about recording or playing live.
It was my expectation that was at odds here, not theirs. It was down to me to drop the band and look for other members or for other ways to achieve the same goal I had pursued since I was a teenager.
Later, I’ve seen this immature behaviour of my mid-twenties replicated by much…