and that we’re changing the way we want to change…

Photo by Andreea Munteanu

I was 18 when I had my first reunion. It was with people from highschool, and we had only been away from each other for a couple of months. I and many others had just started university, while others had moved on to do something else.

This reunion made an impact on me because, for the whole evening, I was very aware I didn’t want to be there. Naturally, I am still in touch with a couple of people who also attended, including one of my best friends, and it’s not like everybody else was bad per se either. …


We failed trust long before it failed us. Time to fix this relationship.

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There is hardly anything I treasure more than trust, but it might be time to let go of most of it.

Trust has been at the heart of human societies from beginning of time. Before society was a thing, it was viable not to trust anybody when we lived in the wild. In the wild, trust isn’t needed. Survival instinct is enough. I hunt, you sleep, we both eat. You hunt, I sleep, we both eat. No need to get our hands dirty with trust.

Once we chose to live in a community, though, things changed. We needed to barter…


I don’t like pain. When it is unavoidable, though, we might as well let it kill who we are today

Photo by Marek Piwnicki

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, states the popular adage. While we could debate the accuracy of such a statement, its message is clear.

I’ve always believed that pain is to be avoided, though. As a matter of fact, pain is a warning system: ‘stop doing this, you fool, or you’re going to be in real trouble’, say the skin cells to the brain cells responsible for telling your arm muscles to move your hand away from the flame.

However, some pain is inevitable. Some pain is even to be sought out. This is one of the traits that…


With time and effort, we may get better at constants. Variables are a completely different story.

Photo by Aaron Jones

We suck at variables. Granted, like every generalisation, that opening sentence is not entirely right. Some people are truly outstanding at dealing with variables, but by default, they baffle us when they don’t elude us altogether.

What do I mean by variables? Anything that changes without our influencing it to do so is a variable. How busy a train is or how much someone will like the meal we cooked are variables. Our mood is a variable too. And so are our feelings.

What about constants? We can count on constants to stay the same regardless of all the variables…


We will always fail… and, as long as we don’t fail to learn, that’s fine.

Photo by Steve Halama

Rooted deeply in our souls, spread across society, is this irrational aversion to failure.

And yet, we fail all the time. We make mistakes, we miss appointments, we forget things, we lose games… almost every day. Somehow, though, we’re so scared of losing that we deny we ever have. Denial is stage one in any journey of recovery, but when it comes to failure, we linger there, stuck, playing the same way because we tell ourselves we didn’t lose every time we did.

If failure is so commonplace, denying failure is madness. It would be like swearing to never love…


If fascism seeks to end of politics, why are we always so scared to “get political”?

Photo by Alex Iby

Francisco Franco once infamously told an unhappy journalist, ‘just do like me: don’t get involved in politics.’ Many have noted the blatant hypocrisy and outright cheek of the Spanish fascist leader’s piece of advice, but it only takes a little bit of reading to discover that he probably meant it. Similarly, Adolf Hitler once promised an eager crowd that he would put an end to the “mess” posed by parliamentary democracy. Indeed, the goal of fascism was never to win at politics, but to end politics altogether.

Almost a century later, it is unnerving how often a heated argument or…


Lessons for the mind while moving home

Photo by Eugenio Mazzone

Moving home, as tough and exhausting as it is, has an effect that is as predictable (once you’ve moved several times) as it is positive: decluttering.

By being forced to go through everything you own, you are forced to make decisions. Some are easy: why did we ever get this? Some are a matter of priorities or practicality: do we really use this enough to justify the required van space? Some are rather hard: I really love this and I would love to use it more, but it won’t fit in the new place, in the new life…

In the…


Streaks are great as long as they don’t dictate where we’re going. Let’s use them and not let them use us.

Photo by Jon Tyson

Streaks are overrated. Admittedly, they are very useful when it comes to creating habits, but they are equally good at ending them.

Most education apps on our phones (whether we use them for exercising, meditating or learning a new language) have the streak feature. It makes sense: once you’ve opened the app every day for the past 99 days, you really want to make it to 100 and beyond. I am a big supporter of gamifying education: if most of us love competition, let competition help us compete better.

Indeed, habits are possibly the most powerful form of magic we…


Choice defines who we are, but are we still capable of choosing?

Photo by JOSHUA COLEMAN

Choice is attractive. In our individual-based Western societies, choice is at the heart of almost every dream and opportunity. It is appealing to say we choose how we live our lives, that we choose our friends, our close circles, what we consume.

Choice is at the heart of capitalism.

It is hard to imagine a world without choice. Even those of us who are critical with the current system, with our current society, find it hard to imagine a world without choice, or even a world where choice isn’t at the heart of everything.

We can do a very simple…


From money to technology, stuff that we use every day and that we have no idea how they actually work…

Photo by Zuzana Ruttkay

We wake up, we check our phone, open an application, close another one, send a message, watch a video, put our wireless earphones on, press play, make breakfast while listening to music that is handpicked for us with astonishing precision, better than we could do it ourselves.

We go to the shop, we exchange a piece of paper for bunch of products that have been shipped from the most remote locations, walk to a cash machine, insert a plastic card, get more bills out, check our balance on our phone, pay a bill in a different currency, the exchange rate…

Marti Purull

I’m a musician, but I think every day. So I write every day. Thoughts. Reflections. Life.

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